Many of you saw this when I originally posted it a few months ago, and it was incredibly popular. However, we have a lot of new people and I thought they might want to see it, as well. Dyslexia is often accompanied by other conditions such as ADHD, dyscalculia, dysgraphia and dyspraxia.
Find Common Words in Your Writing
Proofreading can be boring and reading through a dreary writing app can also be too but an easy way I find words which I use too much is to make a word cloud.
First, you should copy your desired text into this site (or if it doesn’t work for you, try this site). Then, click the button to see it and voila! You now have an easy way to pick up on words which you use too often.
I find this as a good starting point in writing—especially if you’re not used to too much screen time—and it can be fun too!
Here is a word cloud I used for this post:
Abduction and KidnappingDo you have any advice for writing kidnapping? Specifically estranged parent kidnapping from parent who has custody? - livingdeadblondegirl
What you are referring to is abduction, not kidnapping***. What you described also has a name: Parental child abduction. Here’s the difference. (x)
- Abduction is when someone uses deceit or force in order to take a person or a child away from their home or relatives. […]The most common cases of abduction are seen in divorce cases, where one parent is given the sole custody of a child. The person who abducts is not holding the person for profit or any monetary gain from the victim. The laws for abduction crimes vary from state to state and country to country, depending on the severity of the crime.
- Kidnapping is taking away or forcefully transporting a person against their will and holding them in false imprisonment, a confinement without legal authority. […] Kidnapping involves taking a person from their family forcefully without their consent with the motive of holding the person as a hostage and earning a profit from their family. The kidnapping could be for a number of reasons such as getting monetary reward, or getting some sort of benefit from the person.
Now that we know the difference, we can work on each.
RP Resource: Writing British Characters.
Here’s a rather broad combination of UK words, phrases and sayings that one can use as a writing template for predominately English characters. I tried to lend my attention to the more obscure ones of our daily use to try and defer from the same-old, same-old. Note: I will be updating it from time to time, so you may wish to reference back at later dates.
Hey Quel! How do you play a sociopathic character?
Uuhh… :| How do I play one, or how do you play one in general? Because they’re two different things in general.
I suppose answering the latter would be more helpful. First, figure out how your character is “sociopathic”. These type of characters don’t always need to be the “sadistic serial killer that steals your babies in the night and feeds them to demons mwahahaha she’s so evil!”
Regard these persons not as “how evil” they could be, but first think of what “sociopathic” means. What people consider “sociopathic” actually tend to be prevalent in highly successful people:
- a lack of shame
- highly competitive
- incredibly ambitious
- muted to no empathy
- easy liars, expert liars
- react to extreme emotional stimuli in very stoic manner
- very charming and charismatic
- high intelligence
- highly manipulative (emotionally or psychologically)
- violent (this can be physical, but it can also be emotionally or psychologically)
- extreme self-confidence (could be to the point of megalomania)
Many people have these traits individually, or a select few of them. I, myself, have a lack of shame, muted empathy, I’m told I’m very charming and charismatic, I hardly respond to stimuli that would make others anxious or afraid, I have high self-confidence, and high intelligence. I have what psychology calls “primary psychopathic traits”; the affective aspects of psychopathy. There’s also the “secondary psychopathic traits”, which is, in fact, not psychopathy, but ASPD. These concern mostly a lack of socially rewarded behaviour.
Now, the “primary” part is nature, whereas the “secondary” is nurture. You can have “primary” traits, but that doesn’t mean you turn out to be a ruthless killer that stomps on bunnies for fun. It’s undoubtedly that you’ll note a person with “primary” traits in your life, but it takes two pieces of the puzzle to turn a person into the “sociopathic character of tales and fantasies”. A Hannibal Lecter, if you were, if I had to name someone most everyone is familiar with.
So how do you play a “sociopathic” character? It depends on what route you want to go. Do you want this to be an overall good person - or as good as they can be - or an overall bad person? If they’re a “bad” person, do they want to change it? Do they not care? Do they revel in it? If they’re a “good” person, what is it about them that makes them good, despite perhaps their “primary” traits? Do they recognise their lack of empathy and try to make up for it by rational sympathy (not caring from the heart, but caring from the mind, not “feeling” it, but doing it anyway because it’s a good thing to do)? Do they isolate themselves from other people, or do they try to reach out to people? How do they cope with their inability to really connect with people, or do they have people they have connected with emotionally?
There’s really no simple answer. A person with “primary” and/or “secondary” traits can be just as complex as you, yourself, and maybe even moreso. There’s no one way to play a person with this brain and behavioural structure. Two people can have the same sets of traits, and still be vastly different people. What matters here is intent, motive, desire. What is your intent for this character? What is your motive, and what is your desire of it? Even better, what is their intent, or motive, or desire?
I know you probably wanted an easy answer, but there is none. Despite myself, despite Tomo, and John, and Nikolay, I cannot tell you how to play a “sociopathic” character. Despite the fact that I, Tomo, John, and Nikolay all share so-called “primary” traits, I am not any of these characters, and these characters are nothing like one another. Four examples of how these “primary” traits work, and four different personalities altogether.
That’s all I can really say about that.
Don’t be Afraid to Take a Break
Let’s face it, writing is hard. Like, really hard.
Finding the right words and crafting an enjoyable, memorable story can be so damn draining. Sometimes the words just aren’t there. Sometimes you’re tired or stressed or just not feeling it. Sometimes you just need a fucking break.
I don’t know about you, but I was scared of breaks for a long time. So many people had told me I should be making time for my writing, no matter what. Got writer’s block? Write anyway. Don’t like the words you’re typing? Write anyway. Feeling stressed? Write anyway.
I felt like I should always put my writing first. If I wasn’t writing, I was wasting time and would probably turn out to be a failure. And it got to the point where writing wasn’t much fun anymore because it was just so damn stressful.
I’d let myself turn it into an obligation.
Don’t let your passion become a chore. Write because you love it, not because you’re trying to fulfill some phantom obligation.
If you aren’t feeling up to writing today, don’t. If tomorrow shows up and you still aren’t feeling it, that’s perfectly fine. Take as much time as you need.
Don’t be afraid of breaks.
Breaks aren’t a bad thing. You aren’t wasting time. You’re taking care of yourself and that is nothing to be ashamed of. So, play some video games. Watch a movie. Spend a few hours looking at funny cat videos. Whatever relaxes you.
Because writing isn’t an obligation. It isn’t a chore. You won’t get into any trouble if you don’t write for a few days. You aren’t going to end up as a failure.
Take care of yourself and take a break.
Happy writing, lovelies
Story Showing Versus Story Telling
You’ve all heard it before: Show, don’t tell.
It’s tough, though—tougher than it needs to be. I mean, what do all the so-called writing gurus even mean when they say that? Isn’t writing synonymous with story telling?
Well, in a sense. Let’s try to break it down. To begin, the importance of showing and not telling again lies in the No. 1 Law Of Writing which states that Your Readers Are Not Dummies. I mean, let’s be real. If I tell you
"Sylvia was sad that morning,"
your response will probably be along the lines of, “Yeah, so what?” Sure, it sucks butt that she’s sad, but by telling your readers this, you’re denying them their own feelings. Humans are special because we have abstract thought. We have these funny little symbols called “letters” that form weird shapes and generally have nothing whatsoever to do with anything, but yet they can trigger recognition and memories as if we were actually experiencing what’s written.
When I write the word “sad,” you can probably recognize the term. You realize that poor ol’ Sylvia is feeling a bit blue. But let me show you this sentence:
"That morning, Sylvia didn’t want to open her eyes. She didn’t want the light of day to come pecking through her window, and she didn’t want to bear a glance at her worried mother. At that moment, as she bit her lip hard and pulled her knees close, all she wanted do was feel the hot tears at the corners of her eyes and wonder, God—just wonder—how many more heartbeats she would have to count before life released her from the world entire."
What’d you get out of that? Notice that I didn’t use any terms such as sad, depressed, or killjoy. (Fun side note: If you look up synonyms for “party pooper,” at dictionary.com, it gives you “Prophet of Doom” in related terms. Geesh, who needs depression when you can be the friggin’ Prophet of Doom?!)
Anyway. Nope, I didn’t tell you that Sylvia was sad, or even a Prophet of Doom. But did you feel it anyway? By describing Sylvia’s feelings rather than just blurting them out, I think it creates an even stronger image of her character. It makes her a bit more human—after all, when you’re feeling so terribly ecstatic, your brain doesn’t give you flashing message that says, YOU ARE HAPPY, YOU LUMP OF MEAT. No! You feel instead. You might smile without reason. Your stomach may flutter. But no words can pinpoint it exactly. By describing a character’s feelings, you’re letting your reader feel them, too. They might associate certain words with certain feelings, but they also associate actions and habits with feelings too—and chances are, those small actions will hit them harder than a single, confining word.
What do you think? When you’re reading, do you think it’s better to know that the main character is sad, or that she has a strange buzz in the back of her throat and that she’s afraid to speak because of it? What’s showing versus telling to you?
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Stereotyping Tropes List (TVTropes)A masterpost of the Stereotyping Tropes from TVtropes.org. This list is identical to the one linked above, save the addition of Indigenous peoples, which was added. Check for the titles with links, as it leads to more pages of tropes.For an assortment of other related tropes, some not mentioned here, see “Race Tropes" as well as "Prejudice Tropes.”Advice on handling characters that lean towards harmful portrayals can be found in the tropes & stereotypes tags at writingwithcolor.
- Crazy Cultural Comparison
- Culture Equals Costume
- Dirty Foreigner
- Europe Index
- Everyone Looks Sexier If French
- Foreign Queasine
- Foreign Wrestling Heel
- Funny Foreigner
- Hollywood Atlas
- Hollywood Cuisine
- International Showdown By Proxy
- Made In Country X
- Mistaken Nationality
- National Stereotypes
- National Stereotypes North America
- National Stereotypes Asia
- National Stereotypes Western Europe
- National Stereotypes Eastern Europe
- Non-Specifically Foreign
- Phenotype Stereotype
- Quirky Neighbour Country
- Regional Riff
- Savage Piercings
- Stock Foreign Name
- Undisclosed Native
- Angry Black Man
- Magical Negro
- Malcolm Xerox
- Sassy Black Woman
- Scary Black Man
- Uncle Tomfoolery
- The All-American Boy
- America Saves the Day
- America Takes Over the World
- America Wins the War
- Americans Are Cowboys
- Brooklyn Rage
- Minnesota Nice
- Patriotic Fervor
- Southern-Fried Private
- Tipis And Totem Poles
- Wacky Americans Have Wacky Names
- We All Live in America
- All Asians Wear Conical Straw Hats
- Asian Airhead
- Asian and Nerdy
- Asian Drivers
- Asian Rudeness
- Asian Store-Owner
- Dragon Lady
- Dragons Up the Yin Yang
- Identical-Looking Asians
- Inscrutable Oriental
- Interchangeable Asian Cultures
- Mighty Whitey and Mellow Yellow
- Yellow Peril
- Evil Brit
- The Mean Brit
- Quintessential British Gentleman
- Smart People Speak The Queen’s English
- Spot of Tea
- Stiff Upper Lip
- British Stuffiness
- Cheese-Eating Surrender Monkeys
- Everyone Looks Sexier If French
- French Cuisine Is Haughty
- French Jerk
- Gay Paree
- All Germans Are Nazis
- Germanic Depressives
- Germanic Efficiency
- Herr Doktor
- Badass Native
- Braids, Beads and Buckskins
- The Chief’s Daughter
- Hollywood Natives
- Indian Maiden
- Lost Tribe
- Magical Native American
- The Savage Indian
- Tonto Talk
- Native Americans
- Anime Land
- The Idiot from Osaka
- Japanese Politeness
- Japanese Ranguage
- Japanese Tourist
- Japan Takes Over the World
- All Jews Are Ashkenazi
- All Jews Are Cheapskates
- Badass Israeli
- Greedy Jew
- Jewish and Nerdy
- Jews Love to Argue
- Matzo Fever
- Fake Russian
- Glorious Mother Russia
- Husky Russkie
- Mother Russia Makes You Strong
- Russian Guy Suffers Most
- That Russian Squat Dance
- Vodka Drunkenski
How do I tell an RP that asked to affiliate with mine that I don't want to affiliate with them because they're white washing disney characters that are POC. Is it wrong if I just ignore their ask?
i haven’t checked my inbox in a few days, so apologies if this was delayed.
Ignoring the ask would send a message, an ambiguous one. If you ignore it, they might think you’re not interested, and they’ll go away. Or they might message you again, and that might be annoying and not solve the problem in the first place.
You should reply, and it would be a good idea to give a reason. It’s up to you, in your context and environment, to deem what kind of a response to give, how blatant you want to be and how deep you want to go.
"We’re not interested in affiliating right now."
"We’re not interested in affiliating with your roleplay because we seem to have different priorities."
"We’re not interested in affiliating with your roleplay as we don’t appreciate your whitewashing of Disney characters."
It’s perfectly fine just to go, “we’re not interested” without reason, because affiliations must be mutual. If one party doesn’t wish for it, then it’s nothing.
It would also be a good idea to help them, while you have the opportunity. You’ll have to assume they’re ignorant, and if even they aren’t and fully aware, guide them towards a better place. These people are trying to get affiliations for a reason—promotion—and having whitewashed characters doesn’t give a good image.
"Here are some resources and if you take these ideas into consideration and improve your roleplay’s representation and accuracy, we might consider affiliation."
Talking of links, here’s a few resources I would personally recommend.
- “THE AWFUL CASUAL (AND NOT SO CASUAL) RACISM OF THE DISNEY RP/RPG TAG" (originally by janecobb)
- “CASTING CHARACTERS FROM ALADDIN IN DISNEY ROLEPLAYS" (originally by bellerpc)
- racistroleplay's blog but specifically THIS POST
TL;DR: It isn’t wrong to ignore their ask. It’ll save you future trouble if you don’t ignore it though. If repercussions do occur because of saying no, blocking them is always an option.
I hoped that helped! If you need further help, just message me off anonymous because I could help you better with more context in private.